OUR FOCUS — To provide a network of loving support and resources that will help women in divorce crisis.
My Special Moment
I Almost Gave Up!
Psalm 73:2 But as for me, my feet were almost gone; my steps had well nigh slipped.
Psalm 73:3 For I was envious at the foolish, when I saw the prosperity of the wicked.
Psalm 73:17 Until I went into the sanctuary of God; then understood I their end.
It wasn’t fair. I was suffering. The children were suffering. We didn’t ask for the pain, but there it was. We were trying to be faithful to God, but we were not the ones prospering. We were the ones hurting – financially, emotionally – even spiritually because faith was shaking. It didn’t seem that right was triumphing. Then I found myself at the altar telling it all to the Lord and He reminded me that the story wasn’t yet finished. He reminded me of the words of the Psalmist and I knew that no one gets away with anything and if I just continued to trust in the Lord and be faithful, He would not abandon me and He would see me through. I almost gave up, but instead I got up and just kept walking!
Render therefore to all their dues: tribute to whom tribute is due; …honor to whom honor (Romans 13:7).
HOPE…Healing Our Painful Experiences 2008,
The national Ladies committee had long desired to begin a ministry for divorced or separated women, especially those in the ministry. In a Connections meeting the subject was discussed once again and with the help of the Lord we were soon ready to begin. Ruth Harvey submitted the name HOPE with the acronym above as our official title. Linda Gleason was chosen as the Director. She works with volunteer women who have expertise in the area of divorce and separation.
PLEASE NOTE: We realize there are many painful situations that occur in life - often to innocent and unsuspecting individuals. Although HOPE is designed for those involved in divorce, there are links below to help if you are dealing with other difficult and painful hurts. Counselors are available to give you support and prayer. Please don't hesitate to seek guidance for healing from these available ministries. You can find the links below opposite the picture of the HOPE Umbrella.
Have you experienced the pain of a failed marriage?
Do you feel rejected and abandoned
by your social circle?
Have you lost HOPE?
Welcome to HOPE, ministry dedicated to Healing Our Painful Experiences. Divorce has rapidly escalated in our homes and churches. No one is exempt and many times a minister's wife finds herself caught in this tragedy. Much of the time her identity is lost, her security is snatched away, and her former place of ministry no longer exists, causing her to feel alienated from the Body of Christ.
If this is where you find yourself today, let us walk with you. Our desire is to provide resources that will strengthen and encourage you on this new path in your life. Here you will find articles and testimonies from others
who have faced similar struggles. Links to additional helpful Web sites are found below. You may also confidentially email us with your questions.
“Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted in me? hope thou in God: for I shall yet praise him for the help of his countenance” (Psalm 42:5).
The Umbrella of HOPE
Your Support System – the Church
There will certainly be days in life when it feels that everything is crumbling around your feet. There will be times of discouragement and borderline despair. In these times, the temptation is to withdraw from our brothers and sisters in the Lord. However, the church is the place of refuge. It is our refueling station. The weary and the discouraged soul is refreshed in the house of the Lord. “It will be a shelter and shade from the heat of the day, and a refuge and hiding place from the storm and rain” (Isaiah 4:6, NIV). We are mandated in the Bible to be faithful to church: “Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching” (Hebrews 10:25).
Children feel a divorce as strongly as their custodial parent. In fact, many children take ownership of the breakup of the family. In the middle of the emotional turmoil of a divorced family, special attention must be given to the children. When one parent walks away, it cuts into the heart of a child with indescribable pain.
I’ve been counseling for 21 years and people who have gone through a divorced family have taught me that the pain does not disappear over years. Adult children of divorce still struggle with non-acceptance. They battle with the feeling of low-self worth. The question is, “If my birth parent could walk away from me to follow selfish desires, how can I trust God or anyone else?”
Do you have a friend who is facing the destructive fallout of infidelity, betrayal, emotional abuse, and divorce? If so, you will find the HOPE Kit a wonderful way to minister to her during this difficult time. You will receive two books by authors who have experience the pain of divorce and an inspirational bookmark packaged in an attractive bag with the HOPE logo. In addition, you will receive a booklet that offers helpful ways in which you can minister to those in need.
To order the HOPE Kit please call 314-837-7304 extension 412
"Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ."
Romans 15:1 "We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak."
HOPE ministry offers strength and encouragement, help and healing to women who are going through the pain of separation and divorce
For help to guide you through traumatic times you may contact us confidentially by Email at firstname.lastname@example.org
Get social support from friends and family. Build and maintain a network of people to talk to,
do things with and who will be supportive of your new status.
Become your own best friend. Letting go of your “couple” status may be difficult,
but this change now offers a new opportunity: to get to really know yourself.
Try new things…you never know what door may open as a result.
Connect with your kids. Take the time to talk to your children about your divorce and
let them know you foresee positive changes ahead…your children may be a lot more supportive than you think.
Forgive, but don’t forget. If you can, forgive your ex…and yourself.
It Will help you let go of bitter feelings and move on with your life.
Taken from Chicken Soup for the Soul Product Bulletin, dated August 23, 2009.
Be a True Friend…
Holidays endure through everything. They arrive regardless of what is happening in our lives reminding us that some things do not change. Holidays are about peace and love and sharing with a friend. Your friend suffering in the maze of divorce absolutely should celebrate the holidays. If she is having a difficult time, help her by your words of encouragement, perhaps a joint shopping trip with coffee together. Help her realize how important it is for the children to perhaps make some new traditions in your new circumstances. Be a true friend in this time of need!
These two books are written in a heart-to-heart style by ordinary women who have triumphed over some of life’s toughest situations.
The biblical answers provided by these Spirit-filled women will offer you hope and encouragement as you, or someone close to you, face similar struggles.
The books within the HOPE Kit were written by ladies who have walked down the path of divorce. They have felt the pain, and their testimonies will provide strength and encouragement for those now walking that same path.
The booklet that accompanies the kit offers ideas and suggestions for helping someone who is in the painful experience of divorce. Walk with a friend through the healing process and bless them with your acts of kindness and words of strength.
The HOPE Kit (shown above) may be purchased by calling Ladies Ministries
at 314-837-7304 extension 412